Monday, July 13, 2015

A new app provides evidence of consent between sex partners--and the usual suspects are upset

A new app that records sex partners consenting to the encounter, and thus provides fairly ironclad proof of consent in the event of a rape claim, is being criticized by the usual suspects who are aghast that some men are in fear of  being falsely accused.

An organization called the Rape and Sexual Abuse Support Centre slammed the new App for suggesting that that "rape is the result of misunderstanding rather than an attack."

How ridiculous! Rape allegations -- the product of a misunderstanding?! Why, that's rape apology, victim blaming, and misogyny rolled into one!

Except it's not. A new Washington Post and the Kaiser Family Foundation survey contains a very disturbing statistic that has been entirely overlooked in the news about it--a statistic revealing that almost half of all college women mistake consent for rape. According to the survey, a full 44 percent of college women think that when a woman gives a guy a "nod in agreement," that isn't enough for consent. Only 51 percent--the barest of majorities--think "a nod in agreement" indicates consent. You'd have to be an ostrich to think that's not recipe for potentially catastrophic misunderstandings.

And consider this. Feminist Brett Sokolow, the guru of the campus sexual grievance industry who has done more to bolster the rights of sexual assault victims on college campuses than anyone, last year wrote that "in a lot of these cases [accusations of sexual assault], the campus is holding the male accountable in spite of the evidence – or the lack thereof – because they think they are supposed to . . .."  Note the words "a lot." Sokolow also said this: "We see complainants who genuinely believe they have been assaulted, despite overwhelming proof that it did not happen." Read it again--"overwhelming proof." Sokolow added that he sees "case-after-case" where "sincere victims . . . believe something has happened to them that evidence shows absolutely did not . . . ." Sokolow suggested mental health issues play an important factor in these false accusations. "Case after case." "Overwhelming proof." "A lot." That's not COTWA or some men's rights advocate speaking, that's Brett Sokolow.

And note this. The National Institute of Justice has said that when it comes to rape surveys, some people don't give accurate survey answers, but it also noted the possibility that men and women may have different perceptions of the same incident.

Yet if you express a concern about misunderstandings in the bedroom, you hate women? Seriously?

The new consent app is the product of our sad hook-up culture that strips humanity from the most intimate of human encounters. The absence of genuine emotional intimacy breeds not just rape but false rape claims, and the latter is what prompted this new app. While the new app may be a barometer of a culture where drunken barnyard rutting has displaced the staid, time-honored rituals of courtship and delayed gratification, it is not a barometer of a culture that hates women or that denies rape. That is simply ridiculous.

Instead of attacking those who raise concerns about bedroom misunderstandings, the sexual grievance lobby would do well to spend its resources educating our daughters about consent, about the "regret asymmetry" that separates men and women, and about the horrors of false rape claims.